“We were married 44 wonderful years the day Ann took the car and died driving off the road into a deep ravine. Even though the Alzheimer’s caused her to forget my name, I didn’t mind taking care of her.”
Tom recounted details surrounding his life with Ann, her decline into Alzheimer’s and traumatic death. He continued, “Every day I look at her photos and breakdown. If she was still here, we could enjoy each other’s company.”
“Tom, we all make mistakes.” I explained, “I’ve hurt others without meaning to. Forgiving myself and receiving God’s forgiveness sure gives a sense of relief. I can’t take back the hurtful words or actions but I can know peace.”
Patiently we listen to Tom’s stories of grief. Tears and expressed sadness are important to release bottled up pain and guilt after the death of a loved one.
Is there someone in your life who is grieving this holiday season? Take time to ask them how they are doing. Encourage them to tell their story. Sincere listening might be the most loving and meaningful gift you give.
Have mercy on me, O God, because of your unfailing love. Because of your great compassion, blot out the stain of my sins. Wash me clean from my guilt. (NLT: Psalms 51: 1 – 2)
God blesses those who mourn, for they will be comforted. (NLT: Matthew 5: 4)